تم سؤال العديد من كبار السن قبل وفاتهم عن أبرز الأشياء التي ندموا على فعلها (أو عدم فعلها) لو عادوا إلى سن الشباب. الملاحظ وجود خمس رغبات اشترك في ذكرها معظم كبار السن و ألفت ممرضة استرالية كتابا يدعى:
أكثر خمسة أشياء نندم عليها عندما نكبر
يتضمن الكتاب ملخصاً :
أولاً:
تمنيت لو كانت لديّ الشجاعة لأعيش لنفسي ولا أعيش الحياة التي يتوقعها أو يريدها مني الآخرون.. فقد عبّر معظمهم عن ندمه على إرضاء الغير(كرؤسائهم في العمل) أو الظهور بمظهر يُرضي المجتمع أو من يعيشون حولهم..
ثانيًا:
تمنيت لو أنني خصصت وقتاً أطول لعائلتي وأصدقائي بدلا من إضاعة العمر كله في روتين العمل المجهد..
ثالثًا:
تمنيت لو كانت لديّ الشجاعة لأعبّر عن مشاعري بصراحة ووضوح..
فالكثيرون كتموا مشاعرهم لأسباب مثل تجنّب مصادمة الآخرين، أو التضحية لأجل أناس لايستحقون..
رابعًا:
تمنيت لو بقيت على اتصال مع أصدقائي القدامى أو تجديد صداقتي معهم.. فالأصدقاء القدامى يختلفون عن بقية الأصدقاء كوننا نشعر معهم بالسعادة ونسترجع معهم ذكريات الطفولة الجميلة. ولكننا للأسف نبتعد عنهم في مرحلة العمل وبناء العائلة حتى نفقدهم نهائياً أونسمع بوفاتهم فجأة.
وأخيراً:
تمنيت لو أنني أدركت مبكراً المعنى الحقيقي للسعادة.. فمعظمنا لا يدرك إلا متأخراً أن السعادة كانت حالة ذهنية لا ترتبط بالمال أو المنصب أو الشهرة.. إن السعادة كانت اختياراً يمكن نيله بجهد أقل وتكلفة أبسط ولكننا نبقى متمسكين بالأفكار التقليدية حول تحقيقها..
جمال هذا الكتاب يكمن في لفت الأنظار الى ضرورة تعلم دروس الشيخوخة (في سن الشباب) وقبل وصولك لمرحلة تعجز فيها عن تعويض مافات من حياتك.
Many of the older questions prior to their deaths from the most prominent things that regretted to do (or not do) if returned to their young age. It noted the existence of five desires Subscribe to mention most of the elderly and draw an Australian nurse a book called:
Five more things to regret it when we grow
The book includes a summary:
First:
I wished I had the courage to live for myself and live the life you want or expect me .. others have mostly through remorse to satisfy third party (Krasaihm at work), or appearing to the satisfaction of the community or of those living around them ..
Second:
I wished that I devoted more time to my family and friends instead of wasting a whole lifetime in the maquiladora work routine ..
Third:
I wished I had the courage to express my feelings openly and frankly ..
Many have concealed their feelings for reasons such as avoiding clash of others, or to sacrifice for the people not deserve ..
Fourthly:
I wished I stayed in touch with old friends or renew my friendship with them .. Valosedka old friends are different from the rest of our universe we are happy with them and recover them beautiful memories of childhood. Unfortunately, we are moving away from them at the stage of work and family building until a final Nfkdhm Oonsama their deaths suddenly.
And finally:
I wished I realized early on the true meaning of happiness .. Most of us do not realize only too late that happiness is a state of mind was not linked with money or position or fame .. The happiness was the choice could be receiving a less effort and cost of the most basic, but we remain clinging to traditional ideas about achieving ..
The beauty of this book lies in drawing attention to the need to learn the lessons of aging (the young) age and before you arrive to the stage where unable to compensate Mavat of your life.
Many of the older questions prior to their deaths from the most prominent things that regretted to do (or not do) if returned to their young age. It noted the existence of five desires Subscribe to mention most of the elderly and draw an Australian nurse a book called:
Five more things to regret it when we grow
The book includes a summary:
First:
I wished I had the courage to live for myself and live the life you want or expect me .. others have mostly through remorse to satisfy third party (Krasaihm at work), or appearing to the satisfaction of the community or of those living around them ..
Second:
I wished that I devoted more time to my family and friends instead of wasting a whole lifetime in the maquiladora work routine ..
Third:
I wished I had the courage to express my feelings openly and frankly ..
Many have concealed their feelings for reasons such as avoiding clash of others, or to sacrifice for the people not deserve ..
Fourthly:
I wished I stayed in touch with old friends or renew my friendship with them .. Valosedka old friends are different from the rest of our universe we are happy with them and recover them beautiful memories of childhood. Unfortunately, we are moving away from them at the stage of work and family building until a final Nfkdhm Oonsama their deaths suddenly.
And finally:
I wished I realized early on the true meaning of happiness .. Most of us do not realize only too late that happiness is a state of mind was not linked with money or position or fame .. The happiness was the choice could be receiving a less effort and cost of the most basic, but we remain clinging to traditional ideas about achieving ..
The beauty of this book lies in drawing attention to the need to learn the lessons of aging (the young) age and before you arrive to the stage where unable to compensate Mavat of your life.